After nine months of being a house guest, I'm finally back in the nest. It's a complicated matter, but I thought if I left the comforts of home, I'd finish the love affair with board exams. And then sail off into the sunset with a residency. Hehehe. Life has other plans--as you all know, I've ditched that idea. While I'm grateful to the host family for the stay, I also left with a deep gratitude for my own upbringing and associated side effects. In other words, I'm glad that I wasn't a spoiled rotten tomato. I was the house guest, so I had to keep my cool under all conditions. Even if that meant to bear with stuck up attitudes from the pre-teen/teen girls and their mother. Wow--I had no idea that people could be so obnoxious.
I have my own Indian version of "All In The Family." Certainly we have our dysfunctions, and it takes humor to deal with the pains and dramas...However, I don't believe it gives others the right to throw slams on my face. Yes, I know that my parents have a complex relationship based on old traditions. I can't imagine my father doing anything except cerebral duties. Well, my host family's life is the total opposite. To put it bluntly: the woman has her hubby by the balls. So, this lady felt as if she had the right to dis my parents relationship/our ways of life/dysfunctions. What could I do, but suck it up and joke along (inside I was hurting bad). The ode to my mom on Mother's Day was written out of deep love. As well as from a comment from the host lady. She referred to my mom as my dad's personal secretary. Basically talking out of her ass a lot. See I don't care if my mom is just a housewife....as it is, she has a full time job as a devoted wife and mother. She has been around the world--accompanying my dad on his business trips. Saved her children during stressful exams. Yet, she doesn't complain. She does everything without the help of maids, cleaning ladies, etc. We're not rich. I help her around as much as possible. And so does my brother. Now, back to this comment about the personal secretary. My mother is a high school graduate, who chose to follow the old ways of marriage and motherhood. And I don't give a rat's ass if she doesn't have fancy initials after her name. She has given us nothing but unconditional love. Almost everyone is blown away by her humble mannerisms (i.e. not showing off). It irritates the hell out of me when so-called "modern Indian working women" don't have the slightest clue about social skills and decent manners. Take your degree and shove it up your ass. Go brag about yourself to your employer.
Wow it felt good to release all that. I love blogging. It gives a great outlet. I'm also glad to be back home.....
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7 comments:
Mom sounds like a classy lady.
Shame the host's wife's husband allowed himself to be emasculated. I don't think there are many things in life more pittiful than a husband who allowed his wife to cut his bits off.
Oh that's frustrating. I get annoyed when people seem to think they know everything about someones life by just seeing the outside of it. And I agree, blogging is such a great way to 'let it all out'!
Sounds like you have every reason to be proud of your mom, being a stay home mom is not an easy job. And it's good that you appreciate it.
I applaud your Mother. She raised two great children!! I've seen what a good job she has done because you are my friend, and you show all the class that she has taught you.
ugh, that must have been hard to just bite your tongue. im with brandy- it can be so frustrating dealing with people who think they know everything about your life and situation based on nothing concrete.
glad you're back in the nest! and glad that you're blogging:)
Wow you're a better person then me, I am not sure I could have bit my tongue. Glad you're out of the hell hole!
Yay for classy moms! I'm very proud of dear mama. For the last week, I've realized what I've been missing for the last months:) Her patience and simplicity. And also the delicious curries! Taking notes..
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